When she gets her baby… and you don’t

It’s hard. It sucks. You feel envy, jealousy, anger, shame. It’s not something you can openly admit, but seeing her happy birth announcement makes you sad. It’s another reminder that you didn’t get to feel that joy. Your baby wasn’t for keeps. You think, why her and not me? Seeing her post milestones pictures or bring her baby to social events – You feel happy for her, and then a deep sadness for yourself.

I admit, I’ve had these thoughts and feelings. Several women I know were pregnant the same time as me, and now they are starting to have their babies. And me? I get the envy, anger, shame, and deep sadness.

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